This post may be controversial to some and I am sorry for that, but this has been my experience and I can't deny that it has helped me. It is my belief that we exist in three parts, mental, physical and spiritual and we need to take care of all three. It is very rare to find someone that works on all of them. We have our one or two favorites and leave the others alone. But think with me about a person that only focuses on one of the three. A physical person is often, not the brightest, aggressive, belligerent. A spiritual person who only focuses on that can be cold, judgmental and removed from humanity. An intellectual is often cold, aloof and thinks he is better than those around him.
Those are just basic stereotypes but we have met them all at one time or another. To start to heal or grow or just feel better about ourselves we need to make sure we tend to the needs of every part of us.
Physical, it is funny because this is the one easiest to see and we often make judgments on it very rapidly. Now for the truth this is the hardest one for me. I smoked for 30+ years and tend to carry an extra twenty pounds around, but the truth is this. There has NEVER been a study that showed exercise within your current limit, movement, and strengthening your body is bad for you. Maybe you are so heavy you can barely move, you are still beautiful. Maybe you are wounded or sick in some way that limits your mobility, you are still strong, maybe you are so nervous about something your energy is gone, you can still do this.
Always talk to your doctor first but start to improve your strength, endurance and eating. All of these help produce chemicals in our bodies that help fight depression and promote healing. Not only that but you will feel better about yourself as you see your improvements which will help motivate you. This is a fun one because you can see the results very clearly. Exercise and proper diet will help you more than most pills or drugs and as you get used to them you will crave those good feelings more and more and it will push you on. Remember though it takes weeks to develop a new habit so don't give up even if you have to start so small most people wouldn't understand. This is our lives we are fighting for and you are worth every drop of sweat, every sore muscle and every minute spent doing something we would rather not. You are wonderful and it is time to start feeling that way.
Intellectual, most of us are in a dark place and let's face it we can be ruled by our emotions at times and not the facts. The facts are most of us feel like we are dying each day, but we are still here. Most of us feel like we can't go on and yet we do every day, fact is you are a fighter. Most of us feel like the world wouldn't miss us at all and yet the truth is you are so very special and bring a unique light into the world and we would all be less with out you here.
Also the depression, anger, listlessness get the better of us, but the world and universe is such a spectacular place. Yes we can't see it a lot of times but it is. Did you know that if you counted one second, one one thousand, at the speed of light you would have gone around the world 7 times. And that even as fast as that is, at that speed, the closest star to us, besides our Sun is over 4 years away. And that is just the closest one of billions. There are animals that are stranger than fiction, beauty in the most unlikely spot. Open your mind, we have the internet, do some studies and I you will begin to see for every dark in this universe there is a thing of beauty and light. You will start to be able to sift through the lies to believe the truth, you will be a better more whole person able to see through much of the darkness that surrounds you right now.
Spiritual, okay this is the one where most are going to complain, but again, this is my blog, my experience and I do not doubt even one iota that there is a spiritual side to us. Now just so you know where I stand, I am a Christian and believe in the Resurrection, the deity of God in three separate persons and that the only way to God is through the atoning sacrifice of the perfect Jesus. I am just telling you for what we will call truth in advertising, lol. This way there is no conjecture.
Most of us get so overwhelmed we tend to focus in on ourselves obsessively. Recording our heart beats, running every emotion through our brains again and again. As much as we need to focus on ourselves, we also need to open our eyes to see others. Geeze, I could use a break from my problems, I am sure you can too. IT is good to focus outward for a bit, this way we don't feel isolated. If you are religious it is good to gather around others who feel the same and recharge your batteries. It is great to be a servant to others, by serving we make ourselves stronger, more humble and grab that appreciation for all that we have, that may have gotten lost from our sight. Draw near to an infinite source of power and you will be refreshed and able to take that next step in the struggle. For me God is an anchor in this storm and when I lose sight of what I consider the big picture, the little hurts and anxiety start to overwhelm me. Nothing has helped me like God.
Now just for the record if someone is an atheist and comes on here and says "Hey you know what, I just helped a family get some food for their kids." My response is, that is a DAMN fine thing you have done. People have been helped and I think you are a great person for doing that. Out of my own experience this is what has helped me, this is what I believe, I am not here to judge, just tell you the best things that have happened to me so that they can help you to. That is all God is important to me, I feel He loves you and so I share that with you.
That may seem like a lot of work and it is, lol. But it is do able. Today stand if that's all you can do, walk if you can, move and enjoy the wind on your face. Help your body produce those chemicals that will help you fight. Eat right and don't just count calories, count the chemicals in your food too, youy'll be surpirsed, keep it basic where you can.
Read an article today, or look something up on the internet, find the wonder that surrounds you, listen to the truth instead of the lies. You are so truly special, don't let ignorance tell you that you aren't or that the universe is boring or bland. Get to that wonder of life and it will help you see through the dark.
Reconnect with God, the author of it all. Praise him even though we are in a storm of pain and hurt and doubt. Help each other regardless of the others belief. They are probably hurting just like you. You have a vast store of energy to connect to. Begin to see the beauty and love God sees in you. Reflect that light like the moon does the Sun. Get your eyes off your own problems for a bit.
And always, always remember, you are not alone, you are beautiful, you are strong and you are loved.
Frank
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